Conventional psychological discourse deems an individual as “well adjusted” if they’ve shown effective adaptation to their environment. But what if “adapting” is itself pathological, when the environment we’re in is systemically damaging?

We often want one definite answer in life. Something is either right or wrong, good or bad, healthy or unhealthy.

A routine relies on your ability to repeatedly generate the capacity to begin and finish. A system, on the other hand, changes parts of the environment so that less is demanded from your brain in the first place.

In this work, we also re-parent ourselves to believe that we deserve to have these needs fulfilled. Without that belief, even genuine love and connection from others can be difficult to receive or trust.